The Judge Daniel D’Alessandro Case FM-09-1928-14A

I do not believe my ex-wife will ever let me be a father to my son again. The way I felt when I first published this website, and for many years after, was that my life had no meaning. The most important thing in my life, my son, had been taken away from me.

It is not only that I cannot have him in my life, I was devastated because I know he wanted to have me in his life and he was powerless to make it happen. He does not understand why I am not allowed to be with him. I could see his desperation, his sadness. For many years, whenever it was time to hang up our 5 minute Skype calls he cried out…”No” and that was killing me, it was taking my breath away, and made me want to die….it was so unfair.

It is so unfair that a 3yr old boy is destroyed for life so that Brad Micklin can buy his children expensive shoes.

At the time back in 2014, I was being told that the only thing I had to do to reunite with my son was to sign a settlement agreement that had clauses to lead me in jail at the whim of my ex-wife. I can't see how my child will benefit if I am in prison.

I originally created this website as an effort to bring my spouse to her senses, to inform her family and social circle of the other side of the story, to show her that the Court orders she claimed I had disobeyed, were unconstitutional, unfair, damaging to the future of our son. Wishful thinking of course. She knew all that. In circumstances like these we should take responsibility of our actions, of our choices, and do the best that we can with the situation at hand. After 10 years, this website serves as a reminder of how I used to feel and allows me to be grateful of all the things I accomplished since then.

When writing this content, I was not optimistic that she would agree to a viable solution (and she did not). Even if she wanted to, she was being blackmailed by Brad Micklin financially; he was just not letting her go.

I created this website so that there is a record of the crime that took place in the Courts of NJ in 2014, a case study that might protect other children. And indeed, afte rpublishing this site I had parents in New Jersey reach out to me with similar cases. And as I digged deeper into it I realized this is a business, a business built on top of the sadness and devastation of children. A business built by the Brad Micklins and the Daniel D'Alessandro's of the world.

I originally thought I should create this website so that my son can learn the truth when he grows up. Unfortunately, my son will not care who was at fault when he grows up. He will be so psychologically damaged that his problems will far surpass the disagreements that his parents had.

The only thing my son will know for sure, is that his father was not next to him and that his mother is a person he will hate for the rest of his life. How hard must that be for him? Every child needs and deserves both parents. How does the court system justify a child not having a parent because they sent their parent to prison?

What a terrible future for a child. He will forever be alone.

I love you so much